How YOU Can Help US Grow Our Family

Feeling Direction

I know many of our posts have been vague about how we plan to grow our family. The vagueness is not intentional to keep something from you!

It is vague because we still aren’t entirely sure what our next steps are. What we are sure of is that we are to grow our family.

How to do that? Not exactly sure, even though we have felt peace and direction, and that is VERY EXCITING!

As of right now, we feel peace that IVF is off the table for me at the moment. For the moment.

We feel that my body needs a break and we are still praying and believing I will conceive naturally. We may revisit IVF down the road, but feel like we should take a break as of now.

Adoption

So where does that leave us?

Adoption. Yes, adoption.

It is a road that Josh and I have always thought about. We even talked about it before we got married. We just thought the order would be different.

We always assumed that we would have children biologically and then adopt later in life. The thought of adopting a child has always been a huge part of our heart. We were just unsure of how and when it would all happen.

Well, God laughs when we give Him our plans, right?!

I think in my head I thought if we adopted, then that meant we were giving up on God’s promise of making my womb fruitful. Even though we would love and accept a child that was not biologically ours just the same, I wanted to make sure I was still trusting in God’s promises.

But God has really spoken to me over the last few months and weeks in that adoption doesn’t mean giving up! In fact, it is the exact opposite. It is completely surrendering to His plan for my life. Watching my heart’s desires change before my very eyes-to love an orphan as my own- is an incredible thought and feeling.

So this simply means knowing that God is sovereign and growing our family according to His will. And of course, we are still believing he will restore my womb in His perfect timing. But this is not plan B. His plan is always plan A.

So, here we are dealving into this totally unfamiliar adoption world. We have looked into some potential agencies, but before we do that, we need your help! Here are 3 ways you can help:

Keep your ears, eyes, and mouths open!

Keep your ears open

If you hear of a woman or couple considering placing their unborn child up for adoption, please let us know!

We will have a form on our website that you can fill out that will go directly to some family members that will be handling possible adoption options for us. Until we have that set up on our website, you can email us directly at alysfightadoption@gmail.com.

We know that there are many emotional roller coasters that come with adoption, so most potential inquiries will go through our family members through this email address, and then as they become more real, they will come to us.

Please keep your ears open!

Open your mouth!

We heard of an amazing story when we spoke at a church a couple of years ago. A lady and her husband had been trying for several years to conceive (I think it was 11 years) and just began looking into adoption.

Well, her mother was on a flight and got into a conversation with the lady sitting next to her. To make a looooong, amazing, incredible story short, the lady her mom was sitting next to had a daughter who just realized she was pregnant and was not able to care for the baby.

They had been praying about giving the baby up for adoption but were wanting to make sure the baby went to a Christian home. So, that day, after the flight, the mom was talking to the young girl and her daughter ended up adopting that baby!

Had that lady never shared the story of her daughter looking into adoption, they may have never gotten their baby.

So, what does this tell us? We need to talk about it! Please talk about us and tell others we are looking into adopting.

You never know when God would align something perfect.

Open your hands!

We printed off some cards that we had out at Race for the Cure that read “Sharing Our Story, Growing Our Family.”

We have been giving them out to different friends and businesses, so that they may create a conversation about us growing our family, and that someone would take it further.

If you are interested in having some at your business place, please let us know, and we can bring them to you, mail some to you, or have them at our church office for you to pick them up.

You never know who might read something at your place of work and God can arrange something perfectly.

As you read from our last post, we plan to obtain funds to adopt by speaking and telling our story. And by looking into adoption and any way of growing our family for that matter, the funds are intimidating to say the least. We have opened up a bank account, specifically for adoption, and so far we have raised around $1700. Praise God! Most adoptions run between 25- 40K.

If you know of a church, event, business, or cancer society that would be willing to let us tell our story, that would obviously help us beyond words.

Pray!

Lastly, you can pray. This is the main way you can help us.

We want God’s perfect plan and story for our lives. I am well aware that so many of us live lives short of what God desires for us because we act too soon and don’t allow Him to show us what to do.

That is why we haven’t rushed into all of this. As much as we want to have a child, we even more want to make sure it’s God’s timing and the child he has for us.

We are looking into agencies and getting our home study together, but while we are doing this, we wanted to let you know to keep your ears, mouth, and eyes open in case God intervened before we made it to the agency step.

So, here we are taking another leap of faith. Baby steps by baby steps that eventually become BIG leaps.

We aren’t giving up.

We are walking in God’s sovereignty and believing He is guiding our every step.

You are a part of our journey.

Please help us take the next step!

Thank you for opening your mouth, eyes, and ears for us- for our baby,

Aly