WOW
Wow, that really is all I can say about today. First off, just so you can let out a big “Ahhh” with me–it could not have gone more perfectly.
I did not sleep well last night and felt like I was going to throw up all day today. Josh was a nervous wreck. We got up early this morning and went hunting for a gift for our amazing birth mom. In a perfect world, I would have had something ordered weeks ago- maybe even something personalized. But as I am learning with adoption, things are more often last minute. God is breaking me of my control and planning:)
So, we headed out to find a gift. We ended up getting her just a few “comfort finds” and some relaxation stuff, as she is now 6 months pregnant. We finished getting her gift and literally couldn’t do anything else. Literally.
We still had a few little gifts to get for Christmas. I mentioned this to Josh and he said, “I can’t do anything right now.” So, what do you do when you can’t do anything?
You drive around the parking lot. Yep, that’s what we did for 20 minutes. In complete silence, driving around the parking lot of Panera bread. We knew that our birth mom was meeting with the case’s mental health counselor alone inside, and then we would join shortly thereafter.
Surreal to be driving around that parking lot, knowing that possibly our baby was inside, in another woman’s body! We still just cannot wrap our heads around that.
We finally get the “go-ahead” to come in. We are greeted at the door by the mental health counselor, who is fantastic. And then we see her. We see our birth mom and her sweet aunt.
She immediately gives me a hug. I love hugs. I’m a physical touch person, and even just her hugging me tight, I was holding back tears.
The meeting was wonderful. She asked us tons of questions. We asked her tons of questions. We met for about 2 hours, but most of all we just enjoyed visiting. Getting to know one another. After all, if this baby really is our baby, which we believe it is, this woman plays a huge part in our life. How could we not glean all we could from this meeting?
She obviously is having a very hard time thinking about the adoption. I just literally cannot imagine. We cried together, hugged tightly and sympathized with her as you could see the pain in her eyes.
Through the tears and the pain, she just kept saying that she couldn’t do it. She wasn’t stable enough. She hadn’t been able to take care of her other children (they are adopted by family members), and she knew she couldn’t with this one either. She kept saying that this was the best choice. Her aunt and family are completely supportive of her decision of adoption.
We conveyed to her how much she is loved. How we admire and respect her more than anyone we know. How selfless. How amazing. What an incredible mother.
Besides that, we really liked her:) She is really funny, down to earth, and extremely loving.
When we asked her why she chose us out of the plethora of applicants, she said that the main thing was she thought we looked alike:) Isn’t God so good?
Beyond that, she loved that Josh loved sports (she’s a basketball player), and she loved that we worked at a Christian school.
It is very important to her for her child to be raised in a Christian home.
One of the most exciting things to me is that she wants us to be a part of the pregnancy, labor, and delivery. We should be able to come to an ultrasound or two, and she wants us in the delivery room. She will even let Josh cut the umbilical cord—Wow, wow, wow.
I mean, y’all—is this real life?
God has answered so many of my prayers so specifically.
We left the meeting in tears once again. Lots of hugs.
I will never forget her saying that she was “ecstatic” that we are the adoptive parents. She was so nervous- if not more nervous than we were about meeting today. She was scared that she was going to have to tell our attorney that she didn’t want to move forward after we had flown all this way.
Let’s just say it was the complete opposite.
I kept praying for a God-filled meeting. For her to know how deeply loved and cared for she is. For her to feel safe with us.
We were able to take pictures with her and I was even able to feel her belly:)
I got an email later on in the day from our attorney. All it said was, “They love you.”
More updates to come. Just wanted to share how our meeting went today with our beautiful birth mom.
And, oh yeah, we met our baby for the first time, even if the baby was still in his/her birth mom’s belly.
What an incredible day. What an incredible God.
3 Months From Today is the DUE DATE!
Aly
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Crying & rejoicing with y’all! Praying for the whole situation!
Aly and Josh, all I can say is WOW WOW WOW!!!!!!
Well you know I can say more…. but this is amazing! God’s timing is perfect. The miracle of childbirth is like NOTHING else on earth. What a blessing that God is working out everything and you two are giving him all the glory. This baby will have an amazing set of parents. So incredibly happy for the both of you!
Tears of joy ….. and all praise to our loving Heavenly Father
Wonderful! We are so happy for you!
Hi, Aly – you knew me as Mrs. Godwin when I taught at WCA. I have been following your blog/journey and wanted you to know that I couldn’t be happier for you and your husband. I will continue to pray that things will go smoothly with the adoption. God is so good!
I cannot believe how awesome God is sometimes! I have followed you since your diagnosis, been praying for you both, and praying for this baby. God has rewarded your faithfulness with answers beyond our imagination. Now, I’m adding the birth mom to the list, as well as her family. I agree with you, she IS a wonderful mother. And, I’m glad you are so open with everything. I get so excited when I see you have posted. How lucky this child is to be so loved already by so many people! I have 3 wonderful sons, and I can’t wait to see what God is going to show up and show out with in the coming days. You and Josh are going to be the best parents.
PS: I can’t tell you how many people I know personally that have gotten pregnant after they adopted, after being told never from doctors. One friend had twins! Just giving a little giggle in my prayers.
I read this with tears in my eyes. I am so very happy for you! No one deserves it more! Merry Christmas and God Bless!!
Elated for you, all 3 of you! God is so good!
Oh my! Oh my!!! I’m so happy for you both!!
Be Blessed…God is Good Always…
Praise God from whom all blessings flow!
PTL ……sooooo excited for you guys! ☺️ God is ever faithful and knows our hearts desire.
AWESOME! Praising God with you, praying for you, and thanking Him for your testimony!
I thought of so many things to say, but all I’m left with is that God is amazing!
Thank you so much for sharing your story and letting everyone witness how God has worked through your lives.
God is so good!! Sitting here crying, wishing I could give you and Josh hugs. I guess you will have to get some from my Josh when you see him. This is the best Christmas gift ever. We love you and we can’t wait to meet our new little niece or nephew!!
Im so excited for you guys! and 3 months from now give or take a few days. You will hold that sweet baby in your arms! Aly you are now a mom. In every pg when you start sacrficing for the child you are a mom and this unplanned quick christmas trip is yoru first Mom thing to do. Im so proud of and for you guys 🙂
Aly, I am writing this through tear filled eyes!!! I am so beyond excited for you and Josh!!!! What a Mighty God we serve! I am so honored to be a part of your journey through your posts and cannot wait for this baby to get here. Praying for this biological Mom and for this beautiful baby!!! Praying for you and Josh too! May God continue to bless and honor your lives as you continue to bless and honor HIM!!!
Love you both!! Ginny
Oh my goodness!!! I’m reading this on break at work and fighting back the tears. This is the best CHRISTmas present ever. My mom’s birthday is the 27th of March. You and Josh will be THE best parents. I will continue to pray for all of you.
Aly and Josh,
Tears of joy flow for you at this very moment. I will continue praying that all runs in line with God’s will. You two find that time daily to pray together about your “God given bundle of joy” and birth mom.
Congratulations and many blessings,
Kayla
I am balling crying! People are staring at me like I’m crazy. I cannot describe how happy that I am for you. As your story just continues to unfold & get greater & greater, you both have no clue what a huge blessing you are to not only this previous child & birth mom but ALSO to everyone around you. I cannot think of a person who deserves this gift more than you guys. Merry Christmas to you both….as you now become The Taylor Family, “party of 3!”
All I can say is God has answered my prayer (and many others I know)!! I praise You and thank You Lord oh so much!!! Love you all!!